Easter is right around the corner, and many people in the US will find someplace to go to church. Let’s be honest, it’s kind of a tradition to go to church on Easter and Christmas, even if you don’t go to church. I used to invite my unchurched friends for these Sundays and end it with, “It’s practically un-American to not go to church on Easter/Christmas!” It always got a laugh, and often ended up in them showing up.

But, does Easter really matter? Go beyond the eggs, bunny, lilies, and kids dressed up in pastel colors, what makes Easter such a special and enduring event? How is it that some guys death and supposed resurrection over 2,000 years ago still matters today?

Some would point to the fact that as a nation our founding was essentially as a “Christian” nation, and therefore it is hardwired into our culture. As true as this may have been some 200 years ago, I would more than hesitate to say that America is a Christian nation today…so in just a few days why will people who never go to church the other 364 days (or this year 365) wake up early, fight their kids into clothes they hate wearing, and trudge over to an hour plus long service where they already know the story…are the Easter Egg hunts really that good?

I believe that the answer to why it still matters can be summed up in four words shaped into the form of a question…

“What if it’s true?”

You see, I believe that in the heart of every person, no matter how irreligious or even anti-God they may be, is this lingering doubt of, “what if it’s true?” What if Jesus really was God in the flesh? What if he really did resurrect after three days in the grave, defeating sin and death? What if Jesus really is the only way to have a relationship with God?

I believe that Easter and Christmas attendance are peoples way of ‘hedging their bets’ against the “what if”. I believe people go to church on those days waiting or hoping to hear something that will answer that question and spark that dimly glowing ember in their souls, that cries out for more than this! I believe they are longing for a connection with someone or something beyond themselves that gives context, meaning, and purpose to who they are and why they exist, and they are hoping that this year they find it!

If it’s true, Easter is a story of hope, and as humans we are all suckers for hope! But, it’s more than that, Easter is about redemption, renewal, and a reawakening of the soul. If Easter is true if offers the potential of a profound and intimate encounter with the divine, and it soothes the longing for something more than just what we can see. And for those who dare to entertain the question, “What if it’s true?” Easter becomes not just a holiday but a journey—a journey of faith, discovery, and transformation. So, as Easter approaches, let me challenge you to explore the depths of its potential significance, and perhaps, a truth that transcends time itself.

I’ll see you Sunday…I mean it’s practically un-American not to go to church on Easter!

Dave

“If God is so good, then…”

Of all the questions I’ve been asked in 30 years of pastoral ministry, this is the one I hate the most.

It’s not because it’s hard to answer, because from a theological perspective, it’s actually not hard to answer. The brokenness of the world, the original sin that cursed creation, the free will of man to do harm and damage to others, the spiritual warfare we are constantly battling…the answer is really as easy as 1-2-3…BUT the answer never stops the pain.

As a pastor you care for people, you love people, you want to see people find their hope in God, and rest in his care. When people ask this question they aren’t asking for a treatise on original sin, they are asking because they hurt. Today, you may very well be hurting, and understanding the doctrines, theology, or whatever isn’t going to change that. So, let me take a little different path with you.

Although in this moment God might feel far away, I promise you he is not. He also is not unaware or unfamiliar with what you are feeling. He is grieving right along side you, in Isaiah 53 it says that Jesus is familiar or acquainted with grief. In the New Testament, Jesus calls himself the good Shepherd, who cares for, holds, and is even willing to die to save his sheep. You are precious in his sight, and your pain, your hurt, your grief has not gone unnoticed.

What you are feeling is natural and normal, don’t run from it or hide from it. Grief is a gift from God to helps us work through the pain that we cannot put into words. Grief helps us process the un-processable and allows us to, eventually, get back up. But, in your grief, Jesus is there…

This little passage is powerful, and it can give some sense of purpose to our pain. One day, once you work through your grief, once you are back on your feet again…never whole, but healed…you can step into someone else’s grief and give them comfort. The moment of your biggest hurt may one day be the area of your most impactful ministry to others.

So, my counsel to those that are grieving:

• Be honest with yourself and those around you, don’t hide your pain.
• Believe that even in the moments when you are most alone, that God is there, because the presence of pain does not mean the absence of God.
• Know that one day the wound will heal, and God will use you to help heal another.

Tucked into a section of Paul’s letter to the church at Ephesus is a little side-note in Paul’s thoughts and a very short explanation of a passage in Psalm 68…

Paul’s little detour holds profound truth for those of us who know Jesus Christ. We find a powerful reminder of the limitless potential that lies within every human being who’s placed their faith in Jesus. Here’s three thoughts..

1. Remember Where It Came From: As believers, we are told that our potential is rooted in a divine source, “He has given each one of us a special gift”. We are not limited by our own abilities but empowered by the presence of God within us. This realization fills us with hope and inspires us to embrace our unique gifts and talents.

2. Rise Above Your Limitations: “He ascended far above all the heavens.” This phrase signifies the exalted position that Christ holds. Similarly, it speaks to our ability to rise above the limitations that often confine us. Our potential extends beyond societal expectations, self-doubt, and the constraints of our circumstances.God encourages us to dream big, break free from self-imposed barriers, and reach new heights in our lives for Jesus Christ!

3. Remove The Boundaries: The verse concludes with the purpose of Christ’s ascent, “that he might fill all things.” We are commanded to imitate Christ. Jesus didn’t settle for a limited impact. Instead his purpose was to truly impact the totality of the world. Within the context of our human potential, why do we always place limitations on ourselves? If we really are following Christ, the only limitations we should have are the ones Jesus places upon us. We have the power and the responsibility to bring love, compassion, and positive change to the lives of those around us and within everything we are a part of.

The journey towards fulfilling our potential is not without hardships, struggles, and obstacles to overcome. It requires personal growth, perseverance, and a willingness to embrace transformation. God invites us to align ourselves with His purpose, to lean on His power, to accept His authority, and along with that will come his power to overcome!

In a world that often tries to confine us within limited expectations, isn’t it refreshing to hear from our Maker himself, and that he ‘doesn’t see it that way!” 

Your potential is not limited by your own abilities or the constraints of your circumstances. Instead, it is rooted in the divine source within us and has the power to transcend boundaries and bring positive change to the world. Let’s embrace our potential, trusting that as we rise above limitations and walk in alignment with God’s purpose, we will unlock the power within and fulfill the unique calling placed upon our lives, knowing that we are capable of far more than we can imagine.

I recently spent over an hour with a friend who was launching a new podcast specifically geared towards helping Christian men take positive steps forward in their walk with Christ.

Ron was a part of Friendship several years ago and we’ve kept in touch. I would highly recommend you giving the podcast a follow. He’s got a lot of great guests lined up, and hey my full interview drops tomorrow!

Ron and I will be talking about men and church, and how specifically for the last 20+ years I’ve been working on making Friendship a place where men not only come, but actually want to come and be a part!

Give it a listen and let me know what you think!

Dave

In November of 1987, the band R.E.M. released a crazy, string of consciousness kind of song bearing this title. How many times has that song played in your head the last few weeks? Seriously, how many people that you know are literally acting like this is the end of the world? Maybe…that’s you?

First, let me assure you, it’s not the end of the world. In spite of what the news media or your cousin ‘who knows someone in the Pentagon’ tells you this pandemic is actually very minor compared to what we’ve gone through in the past. Don’t believe me, well then believe the people that actually catalog these things. This article here by Live Science ranks the top 20 pandemics of all time, Covid 19 does not make the list. In fact, two recent pandemics actually make the list that most of us already lived through, Zika and Swine flu. So, see, you’ve already lived through worse…and probably didn’t even know it, Congratulations!

Second, this however, doesn’t diminish the fact that we are in fact going through something, but hopefully it gives a little perspective. As humans we always overdramatize the present and under-represent the past, it’s just human nature. People, primarily those who are susceptible or have lower/diminished immune systems are not only getting really sick, but many people have died. Contrary to some who are running around saying every life is precious in one breath, and then saying that abortions are somehow essential, I actually believe that every life is precious. In fact, I believe every life was created by God, with a plan, a purpose, and significance.

So, finally, I also believe that God has clearly given those of us who follow Jesus Christ guidelines as to how we are to treat the pinnacle of His creation (ahem, that’s you and me btw). Jesus himself made this statement when asked about what was most important to God:

“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” – Mark 12:29-21 NIV

Now, I feel that when Jesus says something as definitive as this that you and I should pay a lot of attention…don’t you? He says, the most important thing, the most vital thing you can do in this lifetime, and with your life that you have been given is to love God and love people! I actually think the order is pretty important too, because there’s a lot of people in this world that I would struggle…do struggle…loving if it weren’t for my love for God. The love of God that I have received enables me to show, share, and spread love to others. If your connection with God is intermittent or loose, your love for others will reflect that.

So, maybe take a deep breath before you bash that person on Facebook today. Ask yourself, am I being loving? Is this how God has loved me? God’s not asking you to agree with him, in fact, you probably don’t, but aren’t you so thankful for God’s free will in your life? But maybe instead of calling them a ‘doody head’ or an ‘ignorant neanderthal’ you choose to creatively but respectfully disagree…or better yet…maybe just don’t reply at all…just a thought!

Dave

By now you’re probably on season 4 of whatever show your binge watching, and the novelty of staying or working at home has already grown more stale than the aroma of your teenage boys socks! So, what should we do?

First thing I would say, is to do as much of your normal routine as possible. Yes, I know that some of it isn’t possible, but much of your daily routine you can still do. I love the words of Solomon, the wisest man that ever lived, who said this when staring into the face of his own mortality:

So I reflected on all this and concluded that the righteous and the wise and what they do are in God’s hands…Anyone who is among the living has hope—even a live dog is better off than a dead lion! For the living know that they will die,but the dead know nothing…Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do….Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days…Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom. – Ecclesiastes 9 NLT (selected verses)

Nearing the close of WWII CS Lewis, the author and theologian, famously wrote:

“How are we to live in an atomic age?” Why, as you would have lived in the sixteenth century when the plague visited London almost every year, or as you would have lived in a Viking age when raiders from Scandinavia might land and cut your throat any night; or indeed, as you are already living in an age of cancer, an age of syphilis, an age of paralysis, an age of air raids, an age of railway accidents, an age of motor accidents.”

In other words, do not let us begin by exaggerating the novelty of our situation…the first action to be taken is to pull ourselves together. If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things—praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts—not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs. They may break our bodies but they need not dominate our minds.

The second thing I’d challenge you to do, and I believe God would have us do, is to reconnect with both God and our family. I’d like you to open the calendar app on your phone and look at your schedule prior to two weeks ago. How many of those ‘extremely important’ events have been pulled from your life without you, your children, or your spouse dying?!

Maybe one of the greatest gifts from this craziness is that many of us reclaim our lives! When everything is taken from you it becomes really easy to see what matters most! And, when it comes to God, you’ve always been saying how you WANT to set aside time each day…well it looks like your day is pretty wide open, maybe start that life-giving habit now?

Third, be productive! Don’t just sit around in your PJ’s waiting for the Door Dash dude or the Grub Hub gal to knock on your door, do something. Ephesians 5:15-16 says:

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of your time, because the days are evil. (ESV)

In 1665 a young college student named Issac Newton…yeah him…was sent home because the Black Plague was spreading like wildfire across Europe. He could have easily wasted his time, gone on Spring Break with his boyz, or just walked around all day in his Sponge Bob Square Pants pajama bottoms, but no, he choose to apply himself.

During the year he was in quarantine he invented calculus, began studying the idea of light refraction and wrote his theories on optics, and there was one other thing…what was that? Oh Yeah, he discovered and started formulating the Laws of Gravity!!! Later in his life others coined his time away from college for the plague as the ‘annus mirabilis’ or the Year of Wonders. He returned to college and the rest as we say is history.

Seize the moment my friends! Live, Reconnect, and Make something happen!

Dave

Well this is a first time for me, writing about a virus. Now, granted, I actually have written about many spiritual virus’ and soul-sucking diseases, but never on one that was specifically a physical virus.

So, first a disclaimer: The virus is real, it has caused people’s deaths, and it is something that can be caught in the United States no matter how powerful or careful we are. Each of us should be wise and use caution by not being in people’s faces, washing our hands, and if we are sick, stay home for crying out loud!

I probably shake more peoples hands than most and I do it each and every weekend. Additionally, if you watch me I also use a whole lot of the antibacterial foam that is placed in multiple locations all around our foyer at Friendship Church (which have been there for years). I’m not paranoid, but I also don’t want to get sick. I have a wife that has two auto-immune diseases and I don’t want her to get sick. So I tend to bathe in the stuff each weekend, and I know I shouldn’t, but I actually put that stuff on my face sometimes…again I don’t want to get sick.

BUT – being wise and cautious is a far cry from what we are witnessing in many circles today. I’m old enough to remember a few other times that people reacted like this. For instance, there was this thing called Y2k. It was a computer glitch that was going to shut down the world, throw us into the dark ages, cause mass havoc, undermine national security. Interesting enough there were certain sectors of our markets that made billions off of supposed ‘fixes’ to the Y2K issue, and guess what, when the clocks rolled over to midnight and it turned 01/01/2000…nothing happened. Hysteria and panic make people do stupid and unwise things.

So, seriously though, how should Christians react to this? First, be smart. I love it when Jesus tells the disciples to be “…innocent as doves but as wise as serpents”. Now, he was specifically talking about how they ministered to people, but I believe it is applicable here too. For example, it’s probably not a great time to reinstate the “…greet each other with a holy kiss…” idea!

But most importantly I believe that Scripture compels us to be calm, to not fear, to not panic, or act as if we are abandoned. I remember several years ago I was undergoing a procedure, it was a small issue and it was with local anesthetic so I was awake the whole time. After the procedure was over, the doctor came back in the room and began to have a conversation with me. This was peculiar because before he stated, “I won’t see you after, I’ve got 7 more minor surgeries to do today.” Yet, there he was…he even sat down on the counter. After a few moments of chit-chat he said the following, “I don’t believe in God. I actually have several pastors as patients and they all pretty much react the same way everyone else does when they hear bad news. (and here is the kicker) But you were calm the whole time, it’s clear that you actually believe what you preach. I’m not saying this is changing my mind or anything, but I’m not going to lie, your reaction made me think.”

I’m not sharing this for you to be like, “Wow, Dave is such a super-Christian!” nope, I have good days and bad days, and that one was apparently a good one! My point is, my reaction to a non-optimal situation spoke volumes about the God I serve to a man who didn’t even believe he existed! (take two seconds and read that again)

Every cultural hysteria, crisis, disaster, etc… is an opportunity for the church of Jesus Christ to shine. To shine our love, our care, our courage, and yes our calm.

Luke the author of Acts records an amazing moment in the early church when Peter and John were standing in front of a court, literally with their lives hanging in the balance:

When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus. – Acts 4:13

Then Paul gives us a command, notice it’s not a suggestion, but a command:

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:6-7

I know stuff like this can be scary sometimes, I get that. But the situation around you does not change the God within you! He is still the same yesterday, today, and forever. He’s still in control, he still holds all things together, and yes indeed he is still the Great Physician.

Dave

PS – Just to wrap this all up, be wise, be cautious, and be calm, because your response speaks volumes about the God you say you believe in!