Just Say No!
I am old enough to remember the anti-drug and alcohol campaign that touted and launched this iconic saying. Even as I watched these commercials as a preteen and teen I realized that even though the commercials themselves were more than ‘lame’ (80’s throwback reference) the power of the statement really did make an impact. I mean I started saying no to my teachers, my coaches, my parents…I may have taken that out of context, and it most definitely got me in trouble!
As I’ve grown older, gained more experience, and grown a touch more mature, I’ve realized there is incredible power in that little two-letter word. I’ve also learned that if I’m going to be able to say ‘yes’ to the things in my life that are really important, I’m going to need to learn how to say ‘no’ to the things that are less important. Now, this isn’t to say that things others are asking me to do are bad, in fact, many if not all of them are very good, but it’s not what is best for me.
Over the years I’ve gleaned from some masters in the art of saying no, and I’ve taken some of the best ‘no’s’ I’ve received over the years and incorporated them into my own personal repertoire, but for the sake of time and space I’ve boiled down some of the best, so without further ado:
Dave’s Top Five Ways To Say No With A Smile!
- I would love to, however, my schedule simply doesn’t allow me the time to do that.
- Thanks so much for thinking of me, as awesome as it may be, I cannot do that.
- I am so sorry, but that is just not something that I can do at this point.
- Unfortunately, do to my other commitments, I must decline. However, (so-and-so) might be a perfect fit.
- Thank you so much for the offer, but in an effort to honor my time with my family, I cannot take you up on it.
I’d love to hear some of your great ‘no’s’ in the comments, just maybe I’ll steal one for my own personal collection!
And hey, don’t feel bad about saying ‘no’, they won’t have to give an account for how you used the time God gave you…but you will!
This sounds like a fantastic opportunity and would be well worth my time. Although due to my already scheduled commitments, I cannot attend. Please be sure to let me know in advance the next time it happens and I will check my schedule.
I really enjoy talking to you, but I am in the middle of another conversation. What is the best time to call you back?
April 14, 2015 at 1:06 pm
Awesome ones Marc!
April 14, 2015 at 2:18 pm
I told my children when they were younger (and Katie says she has used this line recently) if there was ever something they didn’t want to do, they could always come right out and say, “I don’t think my mom or dad would like for me to do that.” Or, if that didn’t feel right, they could defer an answer until later and say they needed to check with Mom.
That, in fact, is what I’ve done in a way before. I have said, “I need to check with my husband before I give you an answer.” Then I can always blame the NO on him! Lol! He doesn’t mind, either.
April 15, 2015 at 9:50 pm
That’s what we are here for Emily! Thanks for sharing.
April 15, 2015 at 10:22 pm